Although adults’ ultimate goal in life is finding happiness, they rarely find true happiness as easily as children do. And children find it too tiresome to explain life to adults, because almost all of them have lost their ability to listen. Instead they talk more but convey less, they may be more knowledgeable but lack creativity, they often plan big things but miss to see the little ones, they build vast networks but shallow relationships.
You ought to marvel at children’s proficiency to live every day to its fullest and wonder how you lost this innocence that leaves you free to indulge in the moment. You ought to wonder when you left your childhood behind to fret about the future. You ought to celebrate your own childishness and blush at the suspicion of acting all grown-up. You ought to listen.
The majority of people I know – myself, my parents and grandparents included – spend most of their energy on their job, then some of it on their family and the scarce remainder on themselves. They run through life hoping to reach a distant point in time, when they achieve what matters most to them, only to discover that they ran too fast, missed the scenic detours, ending up on square one.
Give up your day job. Even if you have a well paying one. Take a risk, spend your time doing something that matters to you and trust the child in you. Above all, don’t take life too serious.
This is what Pavol Bencik, owner of Carnevalle Meat Restaurant in Bratislava did some fifteen years ago. In fact he never took live too serious but savored it for what it is. He studied psychology as a diversion from military service, worked for Heineken and Pepsi to swim with and learn from the sharks, made it into the Czechoslovak olympic yachting team, recommenced his mother’s passion for cooking and opened fifteen restaurants. Pavol, too, finds it tiresome to elaborate on how he achieved all of this, but when he does, it conveys meaning, creativity and regard for the little things in life.